Do you sometimes feel like an imposter?
Do you feel like you don’t deserve the success you’ve achieved?
Do you feel like a fraud?
Imposter syndrome is a big problem! It makes you feel like you’re inadequate and somehow ‘lucked into’ your success. It can affect your health, personal self-image and relationships with other people. You spend every day feeling like you’re some kind of secret agent, and you’re going to be ‘found out’ when other people realize you’re inadequate.
People with imposter syndrome are often perfectionists. They set ridiculously high standards for themselves—standards that no one could achieve.
One of the best ways of dealing with imposter syndrome is to reframe the way you think about yourself. By doing this, you can reframe your relationship with the outside world.
You can do this reframing in three very practical ways. The first is to open up to other people about how you’re feeling. Talking about feeling like a ‘fake’ often helps you to realize that you’re not alone. You discover that many people have had similar feelings.
The second is to take a look at other people who have had imposter syndrome. This includes famous people like Michelle Obama, and Tom Hanks. If these kind of people can feel like an imposter, it shows that a) anyone can and b) it’s not an accurate feeling.
The third method is by taking on a mentor role in your organization. Doing this shows you how much you know, and how your current knowledge and experience can help others. It reframes you as being a teacher, and helps to show you how far you’ve come.
Ridding yourself of imposter syndrome is like removing a terrible weight from your shoulders. You deserve your success. Nothing comes easily. Sure, there’s been some luck, but there’s luck in everyone’s life. Behind every lucky break is a mountain of huge effort and sleepless nights.
Overcome your ‘imposter’ feelings as they’re not helping you. They’re only holding you back.
Be yourself, be kind to yourself, but most of all, accept yourself.